How We Unlearn the Truth as we Grow Up

In my youth, I thought I had all the answers. Then I learned as I grew that I knew nothing. I’m now hitting the age where I realize I knew better as a child than I ever did as an adult. I think we all do.

I remember that age when I discovered I actually didn't know everything, and now I'm reaching an age where I realized I knew more as a child than I ever will as an adult. It's as if we unlearn the spirit as we grow up.

I think we are born with all the answers of the universe. We have knowledge of the spirit. But we know nothing about this realm or world. So we grow up learning how to verbally communicate unlearning nonverbal communication like telepathy, how to walk on two legs unlearning the floating sensation, and how to survive in a Darwinian manner.

For some of us, we come from places of judgment. For others, we come from God’s shelter from that judgment. Sometimes I wonder if the Judgy McJudgersons are of the world given a chance at grace in this life while the laid back open minds hailed from a more heavenly location therefore lacking the inherent desire to judge others.

I’m learning with age that this life is so short, and often seemingly meaningless in the grand scheme of things. I’m not sure why we are here other than to die, but I speculate that I’m here to be a mother. It’s almost as if the only way to have children is to come here to do it. And a weird twist of fate has me doing some spiritual work in a world that it wasn’t intended for.

But as a child, I did know these things. I just didn’t realize I knew these things. The innocence we see in children is the same innocence of our spirits before this world.

Children naturally care about people.

You might think the Care Bears brainwashed you as a child, but what really happened was the Care Bears was created because children like that sort of thing. Children like caring. It’s not just the Care Bears. All the cartoons of my childhood were geared toward helping people and being heroes. Scooby Doo fought the monsters with fear and Velma’s deductive reasoning. Shera, HeMan, Thundercats, Superman, Batman… so many super heroes fighting for good and justice.

This is what kids are about. Caring about the world. Making the world a better place. We unlearn this growing up in a place that’s every man for himself. We unlearn the love for humanity in many ways as we form selfish ties with the material world.

We often lose complete sight of what it means to be humane. So much of what we do to help people ironically fuels the flames of the problems. It’s as if we lost the answers and replaced them with opinions masquerading as truth.

Children don’t understand danger.

All they know is love, and love makes us feel safe, even in the most dangerous of place. Yea though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil for thou are with me. Kids know that better than grown ups. Kids actually believe that, with all their hearts, without ever being told of that Bible verse.

Fear is a learned behavior. We are born fearless.

When we learn to talk, we aren’t afraid to speak. We speak babbles, “Akgoo, atata.” Then we grow up, and when faced with learning a different language? We fear learning that. When faced with attempting to speak another language in another place, we are afraid to speak in fear we might say the wrong thing. Even in our own language, we fear communicating what’s really on our minds. What if we offend someone? What if people won’t like me if I say that?

When we learn to walk, we aren’t afraid to fall down. As a kid, I rocked the roller rink. I fell down all the time. Now as an adult, I fear that fall. I don’t roller skate because I know I’ll fall.

The younger the child, the less material.

As babies, we don’t care if we get toys. That isn’t learned until we start seeing commercials for toys and other children playing with toys.

Obtaining material things and becoming attached to them is a growing up thing. The material means nothing in the life before and after this one. It’s just for this realm. For this moment. A temporary thing. We learn attachment to these things as culture measures a person’s success by all the things they have.

Children have no real sense of identity.

We all take pride in our identity and who we are, but children are the Tao’s Uncarved Block with so much potential to be anything. As a grown up, we are cops and doctors, but as a child, we can be cops or doctors.

It’s more than occupation. Everything we seemingly do through our lives is a means to define ourselves. Our political affiliation, religion, music preference, fashion styles, vehicles and houses we purchase… Even the food we eat… we use all that crap to define our identities, and once we fall into one, we glue ourselves to it and defend it to the fullest. Even worse, much of our identities has less to do with who we truly are and more to do with who we want other people to think we are.

What if we let it go and be children again?

What if we just decided to replace all the “I am’s” in life with “I can be anything’s?”

I can come up with a lot more examples, but the point is I think we should learn from the children in this world. It’s like so many people seem to hate children and find them annoying, but it’s our future just as much as it’s our past, and we can better prepare ourselves for it by listening to our children and learn from their example.

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I remember that age when I discovered I actually didn't know everything, and now I'm reaching an age where I realized I knew more as a child than I ever will as an adult. It's as if we unlearn the spirit as we grow up.


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1 comment for “How We Unlearn the Truth as we Grow Up

  1. June 23, 2016 at 3:18 am

    Wow, aren’t these the truest words I’ve read today. And it’s good to keep ourselves surrounded by children as they teach/remind us of the essential things in life.

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